It’s time we had a chat. No one likes to think about it, but once it’s out in the open, well…we can all move on and start feeling a bit better about ourselves. Let’s talk about ‘Resilience’.
It’s one of those things that throws up automatic barriers: “I’m fine, what’s wrong with you that you can’t deal with everyday life and need to talk about it?” It’s personal. It’s embarrassing. It’s admitting that maybe you’re not as cool and collected as you’d like people to think. And that’s pretty hard work – chilled and calm on the outside, hot and bothered on the inside. It’s not something to be celebrated like successfully dishing up a Baked Alaska. In fact, it would probably be healthier if we were more ‘Baked Alaska’ – get the hot emotions on the outside and chilled ones on the inside. Mind you, then you might have less friends. There needs to be a balance.
When we talk about resilience, we’re talking about the ability to react to situations, growing pressures, stress; all those tiny elements of your daily life that build up and start taking their toll. Maybe it’s tension headaches and you take a tablet and hope for the best, give caffeine a day off and you’re sure things will be fine tomorrow. It could be snapping at a co-worker who has had your stapler all morning without putting it back; that nagging irrational irritability. What about crying when someone says they’re not that fond of something you did; at home, at work, in the supermarket car park (weren’t they using their mirrors?!)
Modern life is such a juggling act and it’s near impossible to keep up with everything everyone expects, never mind all the expectations we place on ourselves. It’s no wonder we’re all a bit frazzled. Well the good news is, you’ve already got an inbuilt tool to help you deal with it. Simply put, working on your resilience helps you to cope, get over it and move on.
Great, sounds easy and if you’re reading this on a beach during your summer holidays, then right now it probably does. Why? Because summer gives us the warmth, sunlight and positivity we need to make a change. Plus, if you’re on holiday you’ve probably already started the process of winding down and giving your brain time to relax. Let’s face it, when you’re on holiday all you’ve got to worry about it whether to go cooked or continental breakfast in the morning.
Over the next few blogs, I’m going to be exploring ways to build resilience in small and steady changes that we can all make to start to see a difference. We’ll discuss how yoga helps and the quiet time you can find as you focus on your breathing and poses. There are some new classes just around the corner too that are going to help us all start to relax for the weekend and enjoy our free time again.
(ps. I’m new here – come say “Hi”)